Boy Mom, Girl Mom: The Best of Each
- This Or That Mom
- Jan 16, 2019
- 7 min read
Updated: Jan 19, 2019
Before I was a parent, I wanted girls. I wanted boys too, but I really, really wanted girls. I thought if I had daughters I could relate to them better than I would sons. I wanted to dress them up and wear matching clothes, and most of all I wanted to see how my husband would raise and connect with a daughter.
I became a parent when my husband and I started dating and I met his, at the time, 6-year-old son. It didn’t take very long for me to understand how unbelievably sweet and caring young boys can be. I not only realized this as my stepson and I’s relationship grew, but I got to witness how strong of a relationship he has with his mom as well. They are so close, and it is such an incredible bond to watch. My stepson --- a loud, goofy, energy-filled, all-boy kid has such a hidden compassionate, sweet, soft side.
Now we have three boys, and of course I can’t imagine it any other way. My almost 3-year-old son has the funniest little personality. He’s so kind-hearted with his baby brother, and makes me melt when he tells me I look beautiful on the rare occasions I'm not wearing pajamas, sweatpants, or scrubs.
Maybe it's the unexpected sensitivity that I love most about being a boy mom. Or the way they're so imaginative and adventurous. I would still absolutely love to be blessed with a little girl someday, but if I’m not, that is definitely okay. It really doesn't matter about gender, having a child to love is the best gift period. If I'm meant to have all boys, I will still feel like the luckiest mom in the world.
Below, some moms of one-gender families were kind enough to share their favorite aspects of being a boy/girl mom. Hope you enjoy reading as much as I did (I'm vicariously living through the girl moms lol)!
Girl Moms...
"I couldn’t imagine life not as a girl mom. It’s always fun when I do their hair and pick out their outfits and accessories. They copy me when I put on my makeup or paint my nails. Most importantly though, being able to relate to my children in a variety of ways makes parenting extra special. Every day I’m thankful for my girl squad!" - Triplethefun - Victoria Buursma
"There is so much that I can say about the excitement that I feel being a mom to my daughters! Watching them grow while mimicking everything that I do as they look around corners is cuter than I could ever imagine, or how about filling their little faces with way to much lip gloss because they are doing what “mommy” does. Oh it gets better little girls cuddle and snuggle and as they grow old they are little versions of “mom” with a touch of sass. I wouldn’t have it any other way!"
"It’s funny because originally I wanted a boy. I know right!? What would I even do with a boy!? Having a girl is the best gift I could have ever received! I have been able to bond with my own mother and start a little girls clothing line WILD + RAE dedicated to our little muse. My daughter definitely has that girly sass already but I wouldn’t change having a girl for anything!"
"It’s always been a dream of mine to have a daughter. Being blessed with 3, is something I never expected! My sister and I are 16 months apart and the best of friends so I feel very grateful my girls will grow up with each other. I may be surrounded by a lot of pink, dresses, and bows but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I was born to be a girl mom. So 'here’s to strong women, may we know, may we be them, may we raise them'.”
“Having girls is so wonderful because I have two built in best friends for life. They also motivate me to keep hustling and show them how to be strong independent women! Seeing the world through their eyes has softened my heart and opened my own eyes to see the good around us!”
"Being a girl mom x3 is everything and more I ever thought it would be! It’s sparkles and hair bows, dresses and pig tails, with the occasional sassy tantrum thrown in between. But most of all, it’s knowing I’m raising three little ladies that will be my best friends for a lifetime! People think our hands are full, but what they don’t know is our hearts are that much fuller! I wear my girl mom title ever so proudly!"
-Dani Capato
"What can I say about being a girl mom of 3. Girls are never boring and then having completely different personalities, makes it even more interesting, but I like it. I’m their role model. And even though their all young they are molding to be such strong minded girls."
"I knew more than ever it was my responsibility to show these three little girls that anything is possible. I credit them as the ultimate reason why I decided to take control of my destiny and start designing my ideal days. Today they see me as an entrepreneur changing lives and helping people to achieve their dreams. But they also see me as the mom at home when they need me the most. In my opinion, this is truly how women can have it all."
"Strangely enough, my husband and I prayed for a house full of girls (though we would have been blessed to have boys as well)! We believe we are doing our best to raise them to be nurturing, kind, compassionate, and strong little women. The most fun thing about being a girl mom is watching them together. Sisterhood is unlike anything else. Having perma best friends that love and support you, truly wanting only the best for you, is a bond I think most women seek into adulthood." - ladymama_xfour
"Having girls is so wonderful because they create a sister bond that is unmatched. They love each other so fierce and become little mommas to each other. It means a built in best friend and even when they fight or argue they cry for each other haha! And the LOVE, my girls pour out the love and it makes my heart smile. I love my little girl crew."
Boy Moms...
"Being a boy mom is the absolute best because little boys just ADORE their moms, you never have to worry about finding a place to pee for them, and get them outside and they are in heaven playing with sticks and dirt and rocks. it’s the simple things they love. Every day they remind me how much simple is all they need. I love it!! And I love adventure, so God knew what he was doing when he gave me all boys."
"Being a boy mom is the most wonderful thing that could’ve happened to me. It has taught me so much about myself and has challenged me on so many levels. My boys are high energy but they are also so sweet and sensitive. It reminds me that no one is as one dimensional as we like to believe."
"Boys are the best, they have really let me let loose as a mom and embrace the messy chaos. They also LOVE their mamas hard and I adore that and savor their sweet moments."
"Growing up, I always imagined myself as a mom of girls, or at least one girl… To braid her hair, paint her little nails and wear matching dresses. Now that I have three boys, I’ve discovered how lucky I am to see myself in them every day, to raise them to be gentle and caring, adventurous and daring, friendly, and empathetic, respectful and honest. They brush my hair and paint my nailed, and we wear matching t-shirts. I wouldn’t have it any other way The best part is that their love is effortless, their love is so pure. There’s nothing like bring a queen bee with a colony of happy helpers and protectors, and I only have to worry about my own hair in the morning."
"Boys are constantly looking for freedom to run, jump, and climb. I love that it gives me an excuse to search for new outdoor and high energy adventures! I love that I can be their first love, first kiss, first date, and their Valentines ❤️ On a more serious note, I love that I can teach them about their emotions and empower them to express emotions appropriately and not be scared of feelings. I love that I can influence the way my boys view and interact with women. Writing all this makes me realize how much pressure it is raising boys! Haha! Hopefully I’m doing an ok job!"
"Being a "boy mom" is so much more than I thought it would be. I pictured baseball games and playing in the dirt. I pictured rock collections and stinky feet. And while those things may come into play, having boys also means a bond unlike any other. It means a fistful of dandelions picked just for me. It means having someone so upset that they can't marry me, because I'm already married to their daddy. It means more love, cuddles, and kisses than I ever thought were possible."
"Having boys is wonderful because I feel like they will have a great reference on the type of women they should be dating in the future. As a single mom, I take great pride in being very involved in their lives. I’m a strong, independent, and educated woman they shouldn’t settle for anything less than that."
"Loving the fact that I would be their special girl for a very long time. Not to mention, with the house full of boys I am only going to be pampered and over protected while they're growing up. Of course dirty shocks are going to be a big part of my life too but then it would be oh so worth the mess!!"
"I love having boys! They are these creatures I don’t fully understand but feel in awe of! I love to watch them fearlessly dash after snakes and lizards. I love to watch them grow and imagine the men they will become. One day they won’t think farts are the funniest thing in the world and maybe they will pick up after themselves. But for right now, they still beg me to lay by them each night and they wrap their arms around my neck. And I’m going to enjoy every bit of being their mom."
"I truly feel having boys is a privilege. Every ounce of love, patience and guidance I pour into them, is to turn them into gentlemen. So one day they can go onto loving, caring, respecting, cherishing, their own little princess."
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